So both hubby and I made it through Christmas and Boxing Day without drinking but not completely unscathed. It would seem that for us at the moment we both struggle both pre and post the event or occasion and are snappy and argumentative with each other. We were both ansty on Christmas Eve and on Boxing Day morning we argued as if we had had a drink the day before. I thought that with alcohol removed from our lives our disharmony would be reduced as hangovers and drinking were a major catalyst for a falling out.
What I am learning is that removing the substance isn’t a magic cure all and that we are both adapting to this new way of being. Although we had remained strong externally and not picked up a drink the internal stuff is still shifting and nowhere near settled. We both had our reasons to drink and they have not gone away. Just choosing not to drink over Christmas doesn’t mean that we are immune from the influence or attitudes of those around us.
Yesterday I watched the Christmas Charity edition of ‘Come Dine with Me’ on C4. I love this show as it makes me laugh and this episode was no different as it’s 4 celebrities were comedians. What I did notice with interest is that the show wasn’t sponsored by a wine manufacturer as it used to be and two of the people featured didn’t drink. Not only did they not drink but when at the end they opened champagne to toast the winner one of the contestants took a sip of the champagne and responded with a loud ‘yuck’, pulled a grimacing face and visibly recoiled from the glass. I loved this women for doing this!
I guess the point of this post is that the physical hangovers may have stopped but the emotional ones take a lot longer to resolve and for me it is important not to expect too much of myself or of my other half as our relationship finds a new equilibrium during this first year. Day 97 🙂