What made it important for me?

Everyone’s reason for stopping is probably different and personal to them.  But for me the pro’s of stopping included (in order of importance):

My children.  I had grown up in a household where daily drinking was normal and I did not want to role-model that to my children.  I didn’t want them to believe that daily drinking was normal or that binge-drinking at the week-end was normal either.  I wanted them to have a more balanced and realistic understanding of alcohol than I did.

My children again.  I did not want to be a grumpy hungover parent.  I did not want them to experience inconsistent parenting that was determined by whether I had had a drink or was recovering from having a drink.

Cost.  We were spending on average £400 a month on booze.  This was not something that we could continue to afford or how we wanted to spend our money.

Health.  My liver function test is currently healthy but how much longer would it continue to be so if I continued to drink?  I felt rough much of the time because of being hungover.

Weight.  My weight was difficult to manage because of the all the ’empty’ calories I was consuming in alcohol.  I would rather eat something nice for those extra 500 calories than drink it!

Sleep.  I love my sleep and it was awful while I drank.  I craved a good nights sleep more than I craved a drink!

Exercise.  I ran a couple of times a week and this was painful if I was hungover.  I wanted to enjoy my runs not just for the health related benefits but for the experience itself.

This list is not exhaustive and I’m sure given more time I would think of a load more reasons not to drink.  What would be on your list if you wrote one?

7 thoughts on “What made it important for me?

  1. 1. Like you, my children are the top of my list. My children have seen me very drunk at weekends and I don’t want this to have a lasting impression on them. They are young enough (hopefully) that they will forget the old me and won’t consider this as acceptable behaviour.
    2. In my early adulthood I used to dread phoning my parents or going to see them because I wouldn’t know what state my mother would in. It was painful to watch her. I know that I do not want this for my children. Countless Christmases were ruined because she would go to a lot of trouble with gifts for us all and would make a fantastic meal…. and then would be too drunk to sit at the table and eat with us. I want to break this cycle.
    3. My health. I haven’t had a liver test but I was beginning to fear for my health. I felt sluggish. Every pain I had I put down to booze. I believed the drink was going to kill me. I desperately love my children and want to be around to see them grow up.
    4. I was getting sick of embarrassing myself, whether it was actually in front of people or drunken emails/phone calls/facebook chat.
    5. I hated myself everytime I woke up after a drink and couldn’t remember what I’d done/said.
    6. My nose is red. It may be that it’s always been red / too much sun & not enough protection when living in hot countries, I don’t know. But now that I’ve noticed it, I’m convinced it’s the start of a drinker’s nose & I definitely don’t want to look like that!

  2. Nearly the same list here! Children and vanity are my top 2!

    I cringe when I think of my children growing up watching their mother get drunk night after night . . . as I watched my mother do.

    And then there’s the size of my ASS! I’ve gained 50 pounds of wine weight! Children or no children, that should be ENOUGH to put down the glass!!!

    1. BennieATJ Thank you for commenting 🙂 Nothing wrong with a bit of vanity, and I swear almost 4 months in the wrinkles around my eyes are less 😉 That’s saving me a fortune on skin care products, which also should have been on my list!

  3. 1) To truly be my best self. I wasn’t living up to my potential being sick, tired, hungover, depressed, anxious, guilty, full of shame, and drunk all the time. I wasn’t being the best I could be at ANYTHING I was doing, and I knew it!
    2) To be the parent I wish I had in my own life. I always felt that my parents chose alcohol over me. Now I have the chance to show my son that he comes first. It is healing to choose differently than they did. To break that cycle.
    3) To follow a more spiritual path.
    4) To live longer, look better, and generally be healthier.
    5) I absolutely hated being blacked out. Not remembering my life was truly scary.
    6) Because it feels good! The longer I am sober the better I feel…I imagine this continues. 🙂

    Lovely idea! Thanks!

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