So on the cycle of change I had now moved from pre-contemplative to contemplative to preparation.ย  This stage is crucial.

For 10 years of my working life, l left the NHS and used my nursing skills and knowledge in the corporate world of medical sales and marketing and one of the best things I learned is the 7Ps rule; Proper Planning and Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance.

OK it could be argued that extensive preparation was just a way of procastinating and putting off the eventual day of stopping.ย  But I felt that this was really important and as I am now on day 127 I would be justified in saying it worked ๐Ÿ˜‰ย  Just be mindful of wolfie using preparation as a ruse to keep you drinking!

I always start with information and am a bit of a luddite in that the first thing I reach for is a book.ย  I read a mixture of resource books, autobiographical and fiction.ย  So these are the books that I have read:

Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp

The Sober Revolution by Sarah Turner and Lucy Rocca

Ice and a Slice by Della Galton

Last Orders – A Drinkers Guide to Sobriety by Andy McIntyre

Why You Drink and How to Stop by Veronica Valli

Restore Your Life: A Living Plan for Sober People by Anne Geller

Dry: A Memoir by Augusten Burroughs

Journey Through Thinking about Drinking Towards a Safer Relationship with Alcohol by Stuart Linke

The final book I read before stopping as it required me to continue drinking until I finished reading it was:

Easy Way to Control Alcohol by Allen Carr

Most of these books I read after stopping, not before, as it helped me in the early days to read about other people’s experiences.

The book I’m about to start reading is Between Drinks: Escape the Routine, Take Control and Join the Clear Thinkers by David Downie.

This list is by no means exhaustive as there are many more books!ย  What books have you read that I haven’t that you would recommend to someone reading this? ๐Ÿ™‚

Edited to add: 31/05/2015

These are other books I’ve read since I originally wrote this post almost 16 months ago:

Beyond Addiction by Foote, Wilkens and Kosanke

Almost Alcoholic by Doyle and Nowinski (I’ve written several blog posts about this book which you can read here and here)

Drink – The Deadly Relationship between Women and Alcohol by Ann Dowsett Johnson THIS IS AN EXCEPTIONAL BOOK!

Mrs Dย  is Going Without by Lotta Dann

Sober is the New Black by Rachel Black

Staying Sober – How to Control The Demon Drink by Binki Laidler

The Good House by Ann Leary (I found this one really triggery even though I read it when I was well over a year after stopping so proceed with caution)

The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins

As I read more I’ll continue to add them ๐Ÿ™‚

Edited to add: More books read as ofย  25/08/17

Janet Woititz – Adult Children of Alcoholics

Meadow Devor – Money Love

Sally Brampton – Shoot the Damn Dog

Dr Shefali Tsabary – The Conscious Parent

Pete Walker – The Tao of Fully Feeling & Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

Susan Anderson – Taming Your Outer Child

Cheryl Strayed – Tiny Beautiful Things

Lotta Dann – Mrs D is Going Within

Michael Singer – The Untethered Soul & The Surrender Experiment

John Bradshaw – Healing The Shame That Binds You

Claudia Black – Changing Course

Mark Manson – The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck

Svend Brinkmann – Stand Firm: Resisting the Self-Improvement Craze

Melody Beattie – Making Miracles in 40 Days & Codependent No More

Mary Karr – Lit


12 thoughts on “Preparation

  1. I loooove your 7Ps rule! How exactly true it is!

    Thanks for the list of books- some I have read and found supportive- and you’ve listed a few I haven’t read, which will go on my planned reading list. Such books, like these Sober Blogs, keep me from having to experiment with every single thing alcohol-related. One of my favorites is In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Mate!

    Day 127 is awesome! At Day 89, I am now contemplating what I want to do after I hit 100…

  2. Congrats on day 127. Isn’t it grand. I read those types of books in the early days to keep me thinking about how ugly alcohol can be. One piece of fiction I read that was alcohol related was The Good House, about a60 yr old realtor who’s been to rehab. I could relate to some of her antics.

    1. Hi Christy Thanks for reading and commenting. This has turned into a brilliant book sharing experience for me. My bedside reading pile just got a boost ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Hi. Love to read too. I am 10 months sober and have documented my thoughts, observations and a torrent of twisted wine wanting emotion since day zero. I’ve published them as a book
    Sober is the New Black. I’d love for you to read (and review it??) for your site.
    There is a synopsis and free sample on amazon at the link below

    I am in a profession where heavy drinking is the normal, so much so that it normalises excessive boozing. I drank more and more wine each night. Then, as life got harder to cope with I drank more: thinking wine to be the solution, never for a moment thinking it was the problem.

    I stopped when I was 40 1/2. In the lead up to finally stopping, one of my biggest regrets is being totally drunk at my lovely 40 th party and the monster hangover I had for the next 2 days. After a few more nights like that I knew at some point I’d have to stop.

    Anyway, not sure where that all poured out from. I’m passionate about being sober though and love to read the blogs too.

    Look forward to hearing from you


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      1. Apols to you and your readers for that massive comment. I thought I had clicked on a contact you by email button!!

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