Sober treats are a corner-stone of Belle‘s approach to getting the better of wolfie. Initially when I joined Team 100 and she asked me to do some homework to identify treats I did it but didn’t really understand why. They didn’t have to have a high monetary value, just a couple of quid, and were my reward to myself for not drinking. She had explained why but I didn’t get it. I very quickly experienced why and this was some of the best advice I was given to help keep me on the sober path.
Even now whenever I have to do something that I think is going to be hard for me or a sober ‘first’ I make sure I have a sober treat lined up afterwards. If I don’t, and I experienced this at Christmas because I had forgotten and Belle had to remind me, I get this emotional hangover and feel all sh*tty and deprived and that makes me think about picking up a drink. When in your drinking life your reward was wine you need to reward yourself in your non-drinking life for not rewarding yourself with wine (if that make’s sense?!)
So sober treats can be anything, and should be personal to you. For me my homework list said:
As the days of not drinking have added up I have become a bit more extravagant in my treats. So after Xmas I hit the sales and bought some clothes from a favourite shop and I have had things like massages too. When I used to spend £400 a month on booze that leave’s a lot of readies to treat yourself with! I have also tried to link my treats to my journey and have been using the time and my re-awakened creative skills to make things too, such as this.
What treats do you use that I could adopt? 😉