Booze Crystal Ball

Jumping to conclusions or mind reading, another skill of mine 😉

So when I was considering stopping drinking I thought that all sober people were boring and that any social event without booze would be dull.  So I completely jumped to the wrong conclusion and my fortune telling skills failed epically too.  I also thought that people would like me less sober because I was a mind reader too!

This thinking error means we reach false preliminary conclusions, usually negative ones too, with no evidence to support them.  In reality, I couldn’t have been further from the truth but you have to leap blindly first to find it out.  Or you lurk on sober blogs for a while and learn vicariously before you take the step yourself! 🙂

Jumping to conclusions is a common error because we are cognitive misers and these are “judgmental shortcuts that generally get us where we need to go – and quickly – but at the cost of occasionally sending us off course” (source)

How do we correct?

  • You’re probably sick of me saying this now BUT check for evidence
  • There is no benefit in just accepting something at perceived face value, challenge your thinking first and see if you were right, or most likely wrong!

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Is anyone else as bad a fortune teller as me?

5 thoughts on “Booze Crystal Ball

  1. A bad fortune teller and a bad mind reader, me. Always trying to be someone I think other people want me to be, and it’s taken me forever to work out that since I can’t see inside their heads, it’s a doomed mission. Like at parties – I would drink to be more confident and interesting and funny so that people would like me more. Did it work? No idea. Can’t mind read. Just woke up with a headache and masses of paranoia about what I said to who. xx

    1. Hey MTM I was the same – thought the real me wasn’t good enough but drinking me was fab. Most of the time just ended up making a tit of myself xx

  2. Certainly a mind reader, always predicting that people are saying negative things about me, or at least thinking negative things. It all goes hand-in-hand with the low self esteem that I used drink to cover up. I’ve not got that safety blanket any more, but I also notice I don’t feel quite so paranoid since I gave up the booze, and my self esteem is returning slowly.

    1. Hey ATS Me too. They don’t call it ‘the fears’ for nothing! 😉

  3. I am trying really hard not to do this anymore because it is IMPOSSIBLE to see yourself through another person’s eyes. I still find myself doing it sometimes, though. Ha! Old habits are hard to break but it is so worthwhile to try to break them! Nice post, Lucy!

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