Why me? Thinking and Drinking

This is the mother load for me.  Everything is my responsibility and my fault, good or bad, happy or sad.  Drinking was my personal stick to beat myself with for years.  I could ‘why me?’ about drinking ad infinitum.  Why am I the only one who can’t drink normally?  What did I do to make this happen to me? On and on and on.

Personalisation is where we attribute personal responsibility for something, including the resulting blame or praise, for events over which we have no control (source) Or, welcome to the world of parenting, I digress 😉

Nothing allows this better than drinking.  Imbibe lip loosening, inhibition dropping addictive substance in vast quantities and stand well back.  OK so I picked up the first glass that IS my responsibility.  But the cascade of events afterwards, however much the bottle of alcohol says ‘drink responsibly’ – sorry this is an oxymoron and paradox rolled into one.

Strategy, for the last time, involves – you guessed it – checking the evidence!  Not everything is our fault and it doesn’t always happen to me only.  I am just not that damn special or ‘terminally unique’ as AA would say 🙂

I should say everything was my responsibility because I’m drawing boundaries around this one and progress is swift when you put down the glass.  Maybe you’d like to join me? 🙂

8 thoughts on “Why me? Thinking and Drinking

  1. Hi Lucy…I’ve been following your blog for a few months now. It has been so inspiring. I was sober for 119 days and now I’m in a relapse. This is another morning I’m waking up and saying “I don’t want to live like this anymore”. Hopefully this will be the first of many “Hangover Free” days! Thanks for what you do!

    1. Hi Lori Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂 Firstly 119 days sober was a really big achievement! I relapsed many many times before I managed to string together this amount of time and every time I drank again it taught me something new. Maybe you were just learning the final things you needed to know for this time to stick 🙂 I hope it’s the first of many more hangover free days too and keep me posted with how you’re doing x

      1. Hey Laurie Day 2 is good 🙂 Will be thinking of you and wishing you strong sober thoughts x

    2. Wow, 119 is brilliant. You did it once, so can do it again! I am on day 11, not got past 18 since I quit whilst pregnant. We can do it, I think “I don’t want to live like this anymore” is a very powerful feeling and catalyst for change. Xx

      1. Hey Jo 🙂 Thank you for reading and commenting on my blog! Lori who’s comment you replied to is now over a year sober 😀 In fact she hit 1 year sober on 28th May this year – visible proof that we can do this! Congrats on day 11 and keep going – hang on to that powerful feeling and use it as your personal catalyst for change xx

      2. Yes, Jo, it can be done—and you are at the right place; the online sober community has been a huge help for me. Best wishes to you! xx

      3. Hey Lori If I’d known you were here I wouldn’t have spoken for you! 🙂 Happy sober Friday xx

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