Nonconformity and living booze free

“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music”

I LOVE Jason Silva and he is my newest addiction πŸ˜‰ He creates short video’s that are philosophical and challenge your thinking called Shots of Awe and you can subscribe on Youtube.Β  This is his latest one which is fabulous!



So much of this journey, the sober journey, feels non-conformist.Β  It feels like everyone in the UK drinks and so you feel marked out as different when you stop drinking booze.

I am so motivated by this quote:

We are all free to create our own reality, but it’s only when we are bold enough to decondition our thinking, to transcend … the reality tunnel β€” this linguistic and conceptual and symbolic framework that constructs reality, this β€œanimatrix” pulled in front of your eyes β€” blinding you from ecstatic visions of what might be behind those walls. We are larvae who haven’t turned themselves into butterflies yet. ~Jason Silva

I just love this!Β  What do you think?

84 days to go



12 thoughts on “Nonconformity and living booze free

  1. I like Jason Silva’s videos (there was one he did a while ago that I loved…now I can’t remember which one it was! lol). I think this idea that “it feels like everyone in the UK drinks” is something self-directed. It’s like when I would think everyone on New Year’s Eve was getting hammered. But when I got sober and I was working late that very day, I went home on the subway and you know what? very few people were drunk or silly. Sure people were hooping it up a bit, but it wasn’t the ugly drunk sort of hooting and hollering. It showed me that I was seeing things through the lens of a drinker. I know the UK has a high drink rate, but I also imagine there are a lot of folks who don’t drink πŸ™‚

    Thanks for the video…will take a gander at it when I get home (am at work!)

    Have a fab day!


    1. Hey Paul. Hope you’re having a good day at work? I think you’re right in that it is partly my perception but it does feel like a big deal here. Again maybe this is my slant on it but in this country it is almost hardwired in to you that you must drink – is it the same in Canada? Any other fellow Brits reading this feel the same way about our drinking culture? I can’t wait for the film ‘A Royal Hangover’ to be released later this year as the clips I’ve seen really show the ugly side of our love affair with alcohol in this country.

      1. It’s interesting – look at this:–and-the-uk-doesnt-even-make-the-top-10-9357860.html

        UK doesn’t make WHO’s top 10 even with drinking amount per person (in litres). Canada is up in there. Like I said, it’s perception. Obviously those who are out late at night are going to pounding it back and make a royal mess of things. The rest of us are playing bridge and going to bed at 8:30 pm πŸ™‚ But we only hear about the hooligans and the heavy imbibers.

        Here in Toronto, the largest city in Canada, yeah we have some drinkers, but a whole ton of non-drinkers. Coffee shops, tea rooms, gyms, other social clubs are full of those who don’t drink. We too have that sort of must-drink-beer type of mentality, but it’s only among certain circles. Talk to people my age who are raising young kids and that isn’t an issue.

        I guess I am lucky in that almost everyone I know is a moderate-to-low drinker. I don’t hang out with drinkers – not that I avoid them, it’s just that I don’t know any…lol.

        Anyway, not to take away from the real problems that are going on over there…I have read them. I think also that the focus is heavy on that right now. I am sure it ebbs and flows. πŸ™‚

  2. Hi Lou,

    I loved this video! Took me back to my undergraduate days when I was a literature major who adored Joseph Campbell and Albert Camus. Back then I was trying to figure out the meaning of life and how I wanted to “be” in the world. Now 30 years later I’ve come full circle and am asking those questions again. So maybe instead of looking at sobriety as a long slog where I constantly have to battle that old demon Drink, I can reframe the journey and see it as an opportunity to create a new reality as I move forward in my life. Thanks for taking me back to my days youthful exuberance. That nonconformist rebel is still in me somewhere! πŸ˜‰


    P.S. Still planning to watch Lipstick&Liquor at some point. I’m surrounded by piles of books right now – like a kid in a sober candy store!

    1. Hi Julie and glad you loved it as much as I did! πŸ™‚ I get the sober book thing – I have over 40 on my Amazon wish list!! xx

  3. i am being pushed to the limit! basically 6-7 weeks shy of a year and wanting to say fuck it and pack it in. but it is not the booze. it is that i have no fun in my life it seems and i am looking for it in a drink i guess. does not help that i have no fun non-drinking friends – that would make such a huge difference. is v. isolating. am currently single parenting it on a small island for apparently 2 weeks – a place where i have always consumed too much booze every fucking summer and pitched myself over for the rest of summer – can’t happen this year – at least if it is difficult up here, yet again, i won’t be able to blame the booze. thank god for you bloggers. can’t thank you enough.

    1. Hang in there atg. You are so close to such a major achievement and milestone! You clearly see the issue which is great as you then know that booze is not the answer πŸ™‚ Are there any groups or clubs you could join locally to meet new non-drinking fun friends once you are home from the small island? Keep reading and will be thinking about you and sending you strong sober vibes xx

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