Daily Archives: 01/01/2015

Wisdom from Nicole Antoinette: My four wishes for you in 2015

This is an email that Nicole Antoinette sent our to her subscribers yesterday called ‘My four wishes for you in 2015’ and is SO good I’m sharing it here with you word for word:

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been thinking a lot about the experiences I want to create for myself in the new year. 
What do I want 2015 to be?
Or, perhaps a better question: How do I want to show up each day? (that’s the only thing we can control, after all)
What will I tell the world with my daily actions and behaviors? How will I treat others? Who will I always make time for? What will I read, and what will I write? How will I care for myself? Where will I push my limits? What will I open myself up to?
With these questions swirling around, and with the clock winding down on 2014, I want to share the wishes I have for you (yes, you) for these next 365 days.
Here are the four things I wish for you:
  • That you’ll finally be the most enthusiastic person on your own damn team. Stop treating yourself like shit. Stop with the self-sabotage. Stop letting your excuses run your life. In short, stop fighting yourself every step of the way and let 2015 finally be the year that you become your most aggressive supporter. Have you ever seen those wild & crazy soccer fans cheering at the World Cup matches? Jumping up and down, faces painted, screaming until they lose their voices? Become that person for yourself. 
  • That you’ll realize that we all have the same exact fears. Seriously, you aren’t special, and I say that in the kindest and most loving way possible. I am afraid of all of the exact same things that you are afraid of. That guy in line behind you at Starbucks? The woman on her phone at the table in the corner? The barista? Yep, they’re all afraid, too. We’re all afraid that we’ll fail, that we won’t be good enough, that people will laugh at us or gossip about us behind our backs. We’re afraid that we won’t be loved. We’re afraid of rejection. We’re afraid we’ll wind up alone. We’re afraid that we’ll never do the work we’re meant to do. We’re afraid that we’ll give up when things get hard. We’re afraid that we won’t be able to let go of what has happened to us in our past. We’re afraid that we’ll change and succeed and that the people we love will be jealous or unsupportive. We’re all afraid of all those things, and more, pretty much all the time. And that’s okay. We’re all going to be just fine. You’re going to be fine and I’m going to be fine and that guy in line behind you in Starbucks is going to be fine too. Stop waiting for the fear to pass, because it won’t. Step up, remember how badly you want what you want, and just get the fuck on with making it happen. 
  • That you’ll try – just at least try – in every situation, and that you won’t quit the minute things get messy and difficult. LIFE IS MESSY AND DIFFICULT SOMETIMES. Get over it. Stop fantasizing about this luxuriously comfortable life where you never have to sweat and bleed and struggle. How do you expect to grow without pressure? Diamonds aren’t formed by being lightly handled and wrapped in soft, cozy fabrics. Pressure is a privilege – act accordingly. 
  • That you’ll push yourself to your absolute breaking point over something or someone that matters to you. Stop holding back. There is always more  – more love, more creativity, more of everything – and it’s time to stop hoarding your resources. Open yourself up. Treat your life like a liquidation sale where everything must go. Die empty
You have thousands of chances every single day to be your best self. Don’t waste them.
From my heart to yours, happy happy new year.
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New Day – New Year and Resolutions

Happy New Year to you and I hope that your head isn’t hurting too much if you were celebrating with booze last night.  Clear headed here which is a good thing seeing as it’s my daughter’s birthday!  I’m saddened to say that I used to really resent her birthday being this day because it put a crimp in my drinking excesses of the night before ……. but not any more 🙂

So New Year’s Resolutions – did you make any?  If you’re reading this and thinking about signing up for Dry January or Dryathlon why not sign up for my e-book, that is  available for free in the header bar at the top of this site with your email address, to help you complete the challenge?  It’s also available to buy on Amazon at http://www.amazon.co.uk/Hangover-Free-Life-sobering-solution-ebook/dp/B00PH1O51W/ and if you’ve received it free via this site and it was of value to you then please do consider leaving a review on Amazon for me! 🙂

Here are some of the kind reviews left on Amazon so far:

5.0 out of 5 stars Taking that first step… 13 Nov 2014


Format:Kindle Edition

This book is great value. The advice is based on Louise’s extensive experience underpinned with academic credentials providing the perfect mix of peer support and professional advice.
There is no pressure to give up alcohol completely but rather provides options to help you begin to change, whichever stage you’re at.
Even the longest journey has to start with a single step. This is a highly recommended place to start. What have you got to lose?

5.0 out of 5 stars Fantastic book. There is a real shortage of good … 16 Nov 2014

By Janejames

Format:Kindle Edition

Fantastic book. There is a real shortage of good material to help kick the booze habit and Louise’s book is a welcome addition to the self help literature out there. Definitely worth every penny. I would highly recommend it.

5.0 out of 5 stars many very useful links. 16 Nov 2014

By Fiona Boldero

Format:Kindle Edition

Information in here is precisely what GPs across the country need to be telling their patients who may be asking for help. It is user-friendly and practical, many very useful links.

5.0 out of 5 stars Just what the doctor should be ordering!30 Nov 2014

By Ruth Morrison

Format:Kindle Edition

Frankly think this brilliant little book should be in every GPs surgery up and down the country. It is straight forward and is a must for anyone that is worried or uncomfortable about their drinking.

5.0 out of 5 stars Practical advice from a lady with tremendous courage and an … 1 Dec 2014

By Binki Laidler

Format:Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

Practical advice from a lady with tremendous courage and an inspiring approach for anyone who wants to stop drinking, or at the very least consider the possibility. As someone who has also written a book about quitting drinking I know it can be a nervous time to publish your own views and guidance, but Louise does this successfully, and with style and grace. Being sober and being proud to be so truly is a gift and this comes across so well in this book. Well worth reading.

5.0 out of 5 stars Very inspirational and a really useful book. 9 Dec 2014

By Primrose Wolf

Format:Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

This is a sympathetic but above all an eminently practical guide for anyone who is concerned about how much they are drinking. It bypasses the stigma all too often accorded to this problem and shines a light of hope upon it instead.

Very inspirational and a really useful book.

Giving your liver a rest after the excesses of the Christmas and New Year period can give your health a real boost as we wrap up warm from the cold and try to save some pennies to pay for everything we’ve bought, drank and ate!  Why not give it a try and raise money for charity at the same time?  Tomorrow I’ll share some of the research that supports and advocates a months rest from drinking alcohol.

PS The 750th subscriber gets a free place on my Udemy online course too! 🙂

PPS Because it’s the auspicious first day of the New Year there will be a second post later – not penned by me but shared from the brilliant Nicole Antoinette.  She sent it out to all her subscribers yesterday but it is so good I’m going to share it here and encourage you to follow her.  She rocks sober, running and the kind of diet I wish I had – plant based with no sugar ……