Monthly Archives: May 2015

Friday Sober Jukebox

What Friday night jukebox spin wouldn’t be complete without a tune from Fat Boy Slim, fellow sober hero and Brightonian to boot? 😉

There’s only one tune I can play and that’s Praise You.  Why?  It’s mine and MrHOF’s tune and it also speaks to the power of the sober community and how without you this journey would have been so much harder and how the praise is yours too 🙂

And I was also happy to read an article where Fat Boy talked about his recovery.  He’s not very public about it so this was a valuable and re-affirming insight for me.

I went to 28 days of boot-camp rehab in Bournemouth. Not the Priory option – it wasn’t fancy-pants at all. I shared a squat with junkies. Well, not a squat, student digs. But [it was] short sharp shock – this is where you are, and this is how you stop drinking.”

What made him want to stop? “It wasn’t fun any more. I was worrying about it affecting my health and my relationship with my family and my wife. And Zoë had an epiphany one particularly raunchy three-day bender over New Year’s. Then she stopped. And after about a month of her being sober and me not, it became apparent that our relationship wasn’t going to last with that imbalance!” he says, smiling.

To aid his recovery, he ran the Brighton marathon, and now undertakes two half-marathons a year, while also putting in the gym hours. “But I don’t want to be the poster boy for sobriety in club culture,” he insists, aware that that’s a different kind of boring. “I gave up because I’d had enough. I gave it 30 good years. I caned the arse out of it and left no stone unturned. But I would encourage everyone to have as much as fun as possible – while it is still fun”

Yep, yep and yep.  That was me and MrHOF too. We had caned the arse out of it for years and it was time to do things different.  And like Fat Boy – running did it for me too, although I’ve only run a half marathon in Brighton!  Happy Friday people – we dance today but we don’t drink or do drugs anymore 😉

The next AA?

The next AA? Welcome to Moderation Management, where abstinence from alcohol isn’t the answer

So this was a headline that was kindly bought to my attention in March by a kind person on Mumsnet.  It’s an American piece featured in The Guardian.

Upstairs from one of my favorite Oakland dive bars, 10 people of varying ages and backgrounds are sitting in a circle, talking about their drinking problem.

“I make plans for my non-drinking days so that I’m not thinking about it so much – I work out, I schedule late work meetings, so it’s not even a temptation,” a tall, thin older woman says. Later, she explains that there was a time not long ago when the idea of getting through any day without five or six drinks seemed impossible to her.

“Go out later, hold off on that first drink, set up a game for yourself like ‘I can only buy one drink and then I have to get any others I want bought for me’,” adds a young man in stubble and a newsboy cap. “Hold off on your second drink, too,” adds the older man sitting next to him. “I used to order my next drink halfway through my first, so I’d be halfway through my second before the effects of the first one would kick in and then forget about it.”

This is Moderation Management (MM), a program whose rising popularity and success rate is posing the first real challenge in decades to the traditional, black and white approach to addiction.

The program typically starts with 30 days off booze altogether – “doing a 30” in MM parlance – followed by a slow reintroduction of alcohol, and eventually a plan to limit your intake: no more than 14 drinks a week for men, nine a week for women, and no drinking more than three or four days a week for either. There’s increasing talk of applying MM to marijuana use as well, although that’s not officially condoned by the nonprofit of the same name, which administers the program.

“People do come in lately who want help moderating marijuana and because it’s still illegal in California, we shy away from it,” explains Marc Kern, the organization’s director. “That doesn’t mean they can’t come to meetings and listen and stuff like that. But in states that have legalized it, I can see a time where there’s a different MM – Marijuana Moderation.”

While there is a framework to MM, based on Kern’s book Responsible Drinking, it’s also a program that prides itself on flexibility and enabling people to find their own paths forward. Three out of the 10 people at the meeting I attended said they weren’t ready to do a 30 yet, but were planning shorter breaks. One man celebrated the fact that he’d taken one day off from smoking weed and drinking. He does both in moderation daily, and his concern was more about the frequency and the fact that he can never seem to take a day off than the amount of any particular substance consumed.

Another woman nearly started to cry when talking about issues with her son, her marriage, and her stressful job. She said the only thing getting her through was the bottle of wine she drinks every night. She’d had a few occasions recently where she blacked out from drinking, then spent days in bed depressed. The group gave her ideas for ways she could take a few days away from all of it – the stress, the husband and the drinking – and suggested more therapy to deal with the psychological triggers of her drinking and depression.

A young man in the group explained that he had bipolar disorder, that he was feeling great on his new medication, but that there might be a problem when it comes to alcohol. “I’m not someone who drinks when they’re depressed, I drink when I’m up,” he said. “If I’m feeling good, I want to be out being social, and that means drinking.” The group offered some tips and tricks for sticking to the four-drink-a-night maximum, and for finding ways to be social without drinking. When the older man sitting next to him talked about his daily marijuana use and how it keeps him from being too irritable about anything, the bipolar man raised an eyebrow and gently suggested that using marijuana as a mood stabilizer was different, and more problematic, than just smoking pot because you like it and think it’s fun.

There was no therapist in the room, and the moderator, a two-year MM “veteran”, gently steered people away from delving too deeply into issues that might be better addressed in therapy.

Moderation Management has been around since 1994, but it was living more or less in the shadows from 2000 to 2012, mired in controversy over its founder, Audrey Kishline. After starting MM, Kishline left the group, realizing that she could not moderate her drinking after all. She returned to AA, then fell off the wagon, drunk-driving in March 2000 and killing a man and his 12-year-old daughter. She was released from prison in 2003, and in 2014, plagued by guilt and other demons, Kishline killed herself.

In the year since since Kishline’s death, MM has had something of a resurgence, bolstered by the launch of the US National Institute of Health’s Rethinking Drinking program and a 2014 report from the Centers for Disease Control calling out “excessive drinking” as something both independent of alcohol dependence and a major public health issue that is not being addressed by currently available tools and programs.

MM began to add more in-person meetings and last year, the organization launched a campaign around Dryuary, encouraging people to take the month of January off from drinking. It was so successful, they now plan to do it every year.

“Historically, MM has been looked upon as enabling alcoholics, and then the tragedy with Audrey knocked us in the stomach and we really pulled back after that,” Kern says. “Only now, in the last year and a half to two years, have we started to come out again. The notion of figuring out if you can moderate, rather than going straight to abstinence as step one of dealing with an alcohol problem, is pretty universal. I haven’t talked to every single person in AA, but I’m sure they’ve all tried moderation on their own. But before MM there was no book or guidelines or anything, so people would just go out and try moderation naively on their own, and without any support a lot of them would fail.”

You can read the full article here.  As you can imagine the comments were a riot!!

Here were two that resonated with me:

1. “The challenge surely is that problem drinking isn’t a quantitative thing; it’s more about why you drink rather than when, where and how much you drink; the old saw has it that having a glass with dinner is fine, not being able to have dinner without a glass isn’t. If that’s the case then moderation (as to amount) misses the point, because if the intention is still palliative, or celebratory or any one of the myriad reasons we’re told we (… ah, go-on) should let ourselves go a a little, then it’s the perception we need to moderate.”

2. “What the author may be alluding to is the application of harm reduction to alcohol.

Harm reduction is generally thought to be an effective approach to minimising the biological and social harms associated with illicit drug use.

Alcohol? Well maybe it works.

But we may also wish to consider the possibility that alcohol harm reduction is a concept that has been captured by alcohol  interests.

Thus, both NGOs and researchers are drawn into the advocacy web woven by an industry sector understandably nervous of abstinence talk.”

And another commentor summed up my position nicely:

“The harm reduction model is a good place to start for a person who is in the ‘pre-contemplative stage’. This person is up against it, but not hard enough to see that the choice of whether or not to use has been completely lost, that the body is making the decision and bypassing what the person thinks of as his will or mind or whatever”

In my experience a phase of attempted moderation was part of the journey so any approach that encourages someone to look at their drinking is a good thing.  It will be interesting to see how MM develops in this country …….

What are your thoughts?



What’s your poison?

So I don’t very often put out two blog posts in one day but last night I watched a programme that was both fascinating, informative and important and it has a limited re-play time online and it’s about the premise of what’s your poison, the old saying related to drinking.

This was the shows description:

Identical twins

How bad can our drinking pattern be for our health? Doctors and genetically identical twins Chris and Xand van Tulleken want to find out. With the current drinking guidelines under review, the twins embark on self-experimentation to see the effects of different drinking patterns on their health. With Chris drinking 21 units spread evenly across the week and Xand having his 21 in single weekly binges, how will their bodies differ after a month? Catching up with the latest research into alcohol drinking patterns, we ask if moderate drinking is genuinely good for us – and whether binge drinking is really that bad.

And you can watch it here:

For those unable to watch the show there is a good write up here and it was also picked up by the Daily Mail which you can read about here.

As a nurse this show fascinated me.  Particularly the blood test results at the end which showed that both binge drinking and daily consumption of the Govt recommended guidelines amount was damaging to our immune system and liver.

The scary bit was that the leaky gut that we knew happened as evidenced by ‘drinkers sh*ts’ was actually much worse than we thought.  The Consultant Hepatologist at The Royal Free who they saw and tested their blood talked about how toxins leak from the gut when we drink causing systemic immune system poisoning.  It really is a case of what’s your poison!!

And you were no safer drinking the Govt recommended amount on a daily basis than if you binged it all on a Saturday night.  The damage was the same and although logically we think that the one night binge would allow our livers and bodies enough time to recover the truth is – in the case of these two brothers at least – it doesn’t.  They also both had an increase in liver stiffness which meant the liver was suffering too.

The Consultant Hepatologist was shocked with the results and ended by saying that based on these results there is no safe level that we can drink.   It will be really interesting to see what the new Govt recommended guidelines say when they are finally published ……..

Did any of you watch it?  What are your thoughts?

Edited to add:  23 May 2015, it’s now on Youtube!

Veronica Valli & I (15) discuss Step 11

So today Veronica and I discuss Step 11 which reads: Sought through prayer and meditation o improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

How can we apply Step 11 to our lives? What does prayer and meditation mean? These questions and more are answered.

In one word we need to GROW.  That’s it, or put another way, ‘change or die’ as the lovely Carrie Armstrong reminded me recently in this post and who I’ll be meeting today at the press/industry screening of A Royal Hangover!!  A write up post to follow 🙂

Veronica Valli is an Addictions Therapist and the author of Why you drink and How to stop:…

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It’s been a while since we’ve had a Shots of Awe moment and I love Jason Silva and his musings.

My giving up drinking was a moment of serendipity.  I had gone to see my counsellor and in all the time I’d been seeing her we’d never discussed my drinking.  Was I hiding it from her?  Maybe.  Was I in denial and so didn’t want to raise it?  Maybe.  At the end of this session, our last session together as it turned out the subject of drinking came up.  Talk about a therapeutic ‘door knob revelation’!

She mentioned that she’d stopped drinking, had used the Allen Carr book and how much better she was feeling for it.  Hmm says me, this is something I need to look at too.  So I downloaded the book that day.

That evening one of my closest friends came to stay.  We have been through a great deal us two since meeting on an Open University psychology degree residential school, including training and running the London Marathon together.  Big things happened when our worlds collide and this was no different.  I decided that night that I was going to stop drinking and we raised a glass of red to it.  There wasn’t much forethought or planning, just that I would read the Allen Carr book over the next week and then have my last drink the next week-end at the end of it as he recommended.

And that was it.  The die was cast, the dice was rolled and here I am 🙂  If you’re reading this blog for the first time maybe this is your moment of serendipity?  Maybe our paths have crossed today for a reason.  Maybe if you’re looking for answers you just found it?  Best thing I ever did.


So thank you Jane and Nicky for that serendipitous day 🙂 xx

PS Burning Man is on my bucket list of lifetime things to do.  If you have a desire to go to Burning Man too and want to come have a sober adventure with me then let me know 😉


France’s alcohol consumption halved in 20 years

I’m including this news story because I lived in France for 6 months and as the ‘French paradox‘ is often held up as the answer to the British approach to alcohol.


According to a new study, just 18% of French men and 6% of French women consume alcohol on a daily basis, marking a reduction of 50% in the past 20 years. On the other hand, the statistics also show that underage drinking is a growing problem for France.

The recent report produced by La Direction de la recherche, des études, de l’évaluation et des statistiques (DREES), has revealed once again that adult alcohol consumption is decreasing nationwide. On average, 12% of French adults admitted to drinking wine, beer or spirits every day, compared to 23% in 1995.

In terms of provincial alcohol consumption, the report revealed that the Nord Pas de Calais, Pays de la Loire, Midi Pyrénées and Languedoc Roussillon regions are home to the most prolific drinkers. In a surprising turn of events, the Ile de France, where people are known for their hectic lifestyles, is one of the areas where people consume the least amount of alcohol.

The report has, however, provided some concerning news for parents across the country. The most recent statistics show that 11.2% of 17-year-olds drink alcohol more than 10 times every month. Teenage boys were found to be the worst with 15.2% of those interviewed admitting to drinking excessively. 

As reported in The Riviera Times in October, underage drinking is a major concern for French authorities. A report conducted last year revealed that 59% of 11 to 12-year-olds have consumed alcohol, whilst 60% of 15 to 17-year-olds have been drunk at least once, and 79% of 16-year-olds claimed to have consumed alcohol within the last month.

When I lived in France I lived in the Pays de la Loire and was definitely a prolific drinker at the time – in fact it was whilst living in France that the wheels really came off with my drinking.

So alcohol consumption has dropped considerably amongst the adult population but they are struggling with underage consumption.  This seems to be the reverse of what is being reported here which I find really interesting and makes me wonder why that is.  Any thoughts?

Plus my friend Libby over at Depression Lab hit 500 days hangover free 3 days ago and we met for coffee and cake yesterday to celebrate our milestones together 🙂  Her post about her big day is most definitely worth a read:

Edited 21/08/2015:  more news stories about French consumption rates dropping

Less than half of French order alcohol once a week, shock poll reveals

Educated UK women have worst alcohol problem in West

Thanks to the Sober Womens Awareness Network (SWAN) group on Facebook for linking these articles.  It was reported on the BBC, in the Daily Mail and the Daily Express and the alarmist headline comes courtesy of the Daily Wail.  In fact as the week went on it was picked up by every national newspaper and all were writing about a report out last week that looked at the rate of heavy drinking in the middle class female professional world and how educated UK women  have the worst alcohol problem in Western society.  It also featured a picture and piece by Lucy Rocca from the excellent sober online community Soberistas

Shoot for Femail featuring Lucy Rocca for a feature on recovering from alcoholism and being middle class.
Shoot for Femail featuring Lucy Rocca for a feature on recovering from alcoholism and being middle class.

Educated British women head a global league table for alcohol abuse, a shocking report revealed last night.  It said growing numbers of professional women are drinking at dangerous levels to keep up with men and further their careers.  Many start heavy boozing when young and continue the habit into middle age, downing vast quantities at home, often on their own.

In what has become the ‘dark side of equality’, their drinking habits now resemble those of men, according to the study by the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development.  One in five woman graduates regularly drink ‘hazardously’ compared with one in ten for those with lower levels of education.  Hazardous is defined as consuming at least twice the safe limit of 14 units a week for women and 21 units for men.  A unit is roughly half a glass of wine or half a pint of beer. ‘Women are adopting men’s drinking habits and they are not healthy,’ said Mark Pearson of the OECD.  ‘As women have moved into the labour market they have adapted to the male culture. Jobs where you can earn more are more likely to be jobs that have a lot networking. It’s the dark side of equality.  ‘They aren’t being frogmarched by their bosses but there are social pressures to go out and to network.’

The study, the OECD’s first major report on harmful alcohol abuse, also found that:

  • Four in five drinkers would live longer if they cut back by just half a glass of wine a week;
  • Two thirds of alcohol in the UK is drunk by just 20 per cent of adults
  • Girls have caught up with boys and are now drinking in their early teens, with 41 per cent of 15-year-old girls having been drunk. 

The report compared the drinking habits of men and women from 34 Western countries through analysing social surveys.  The UK had the highest percentage of educated women drinking hazardously. British men were tied for top with Germany.  It found that in many countries including the UK there was a direct link between whether someone drank hazardously and the number of years they had spent in education.

According to the OECD study, women now drink regularly with male colleagues in the pub after work. Not only has it become more socially acceptable, many feel under pressure to drink to boost their career prospects.  And with many more women delaying motherhood, or choosing not to have children at all, they are continuing this lifestyle well into their 30s, 40s and beyond.

The report’s authors called on the Government to bring in tough measures to tackle excessive drinking, such as mandatory calorie labelling which could be particularly effective for women.  Katherine Brown, of the Institute of Alcohol Studies, said: ‘This report shows the UK has a worrying report card on alcohol compared with other high-income countries.  Of particular concern is the stark increase in women drinking at hazardous levels, including teenage girls, who appear to have overtaken the teenage boys in rates of drunkenness.

There are a number of reasons why women are drinking so much more today, but an important factor is the aggressive marketing tactics employed by the drinks industry to attract female consumers.  ‘We’ve seen a huge surge in female-oriented sweet, fizzy, pink drinks, often linked to sponsorship deals with cosmetic brands, women’s daytime TV shows and sometimes even breast cancer awareness campaigns.’

The OECD report said that the highest proportion of hazardous drinkers was among the 45 to 64 age group, and teenage girls were now drinking just as much as boys.  It concluded: ‘Women with higher education may have better-paid jobs involving higher degrees of responsibility and thus may drink more heavily because they have more stress as well as more chances to go out drinking with male colleagues with higher limits of drinking.

‘More years spent in education, improved labour market prospects, increased opportunities for socialisation, delayed pregnancies and family ties, are all part of women’s changing lifestyles, in which alcohol drinking, sometimes including heavy drinking, has easily found a place. Much of it is done at home, away from public view.’  Last year a report warned that liver disease deaths were up 500 per cent in 30 years, fuelled by excessive drinking.

I find it interesting that the OECD identify that the highest proportion of harazardous drinking is amongst the 45-64 age group.  And what I’m noticing is that it is this group that is waking up to the issue and doing something about it.  I myself would have been in that demographic if I hadn’t stopped drinking 6 weeks before my 45 birthday and I know I’m not the only sober blogger who is a mid forties, middle class professional.  If you are reading this and happy to share your age, perceived social class and whether you are a professional (and you can do so anonymously) we can do our own straw poll 🙂

Drink-drive limit should be cut by almost half, fire brigade says

This came from The Daily Telegraph in March and followed a statement from the fire brigade saying that reducing the drink-drive limit would save hundreds of lives a year.

The drink-drive limit should be cut by almost half to save hundreds of lives and millions of pounds of public money, fire brigades say.

Under the proposals, which mirror reforms in Scotland in December, people who used their cars after consuming anything more than a pint of beer or glass of wine might be breaking the law.

Experts suggested it was likely that people who drank four pints of beer, or the equivalent, would still be over the limit “the morning after”.

Jeremy Hilton, chairman of the Local Government Association Fire Services Management Committee, which represents fire and rescue services, said England had one of the highest limits in Europe.

He called for the limit to be reduced from 80mgs for every 100ml of blood to 50mgs. Such a move was made in Scotland in December, bringing it in line with France, Germany, Italy and most of Europe as well as Australia.

“We believe that the current limit [in England] is simply unacceptable,” Mr Hilton said.

A lower limit would save 170 lives a year, he estimated. According to the RAC, it would also provide the emergency services with an extra £300 million by reducing the number of call-outs to accidents and hospital admissions.

Peter Dartford, president of the Chief Fire Officers Association, said: “We want to see the limit brought down to make it clear that no amount of alcohol is ‘safe’ to drink before driving.

“Any firefighter will tell you that of all the difficult and shocking things they encounter as part of their job, serious road traffic collisions are very often the worst.”

There is no safe way to calculate how much alcohol you can drink to stay below the legal limit, according to the NHS website. It says that the conversion of units of alcohol into blood concentration levels “varies between different people”.

As a general rule in England, two pints of normal strength beer or lager will just breach the limit, as would two small glasses of wine. The amounts vary according to sex, age, weight and whether food has been eaten.

Dr Hazel Torrance, a forensic toxicologist from the University of Glasgow, told the BBC the proposed limits would equate to a single glass of beer or wine or beer, as long as people waited a few hours before driving.

Campaign website suggests that two pints of 3.5 per cent to 4 per cent beer would create a blood concentration level of 60mgs per 100ml in a man of average build.

It said a lower limit would hit “two-pint men”, who were visiting pubs and drinking only so much as to stay within the driving limit.

“This is the group where a lower limit would have most effect, because these are people who broadly speaking want to obey the law,” the website claimed.

It also suggested that four pints of beer keep blood concentration levels high even after a night’s sleep.

“With a lower limit, people would end up [breaching the drink-drive limit] after what to many is a normal evening in the pub rather than a ‘heavy session'”, it said.

Pete Williams, of the RAC, said: “It is clear that that there is an overwhelming tide of opinion among law-abiding motorists that England and Wales should follow suit with Scotland and adopt the lower permitted alcohol limit – which is widespread across Europe.”

Simon Richardson MBE

And then Simon Richardson MBE spoke at the last meeting of the All Party Parliamentary Group on Alcohol Harm.  Politicians and public health specialists met to discuss ‘Drink Driving and the Effectiveness of the Current Legal Limit,’ exploring how the government is tackling drink driving, and the initial experience of Scotland’s new lower drink drive limit which you can read below.  His harrowing story is just one of lives inexorably changed by drink driving:

Simon Richardson MBE, Paralympic cycling champion, calls for lower drink drive limit in Parliament

Please click here  to sign a petition and show your support for lowering the drink drive limit in England and Wales.

I’ve signed it and I hope you will too 🙂

Time at the bar: can Britain’s pubs survive?

This was a news story in The Telegraph pre Budget and looks at whether pubs can survive when figures suggest they are currently closing at a rate of 29 a week.

Can British Pubs survive?
Can British Pubs survive?

The pub industry is going through a shake-up, spurred on by recent government legislation to scrap the controversial “beer tie” system and allow pub landlords tied to big chains to buy beer on the open market.

The decision to alter the relationship between large pubcos and tenants followed a difficult decade for the pub industry in which the number of public houses in Britain dropped from 58,200 in 2006 to just 48,000 last year, a fall of 18pc.

Pub landlords hope they will be thrown another life raft in next week’s Budget, with some speculating that the Government may cut beer duty by 1p for the third consecutive year.

The Campaign for Real Ale lobby group, which supports a cut in beer tax, estimates that 1,047 pubs have been saved in the past two years as a result of the Government’s decision to scrap the beer duty escalator and cut beer duty in 2013 and 2014.

“At a time when there is concern about the number of people drinking excessively at home, the importance of pubs as places where you can drink responsibly in a social and community setting cannot be overstated,” said Camra’s chief executive Tim Page.

Britain’s pub industry has suffered for a number of reasons: increased competition from supermarkets selling cheap drink, heavy taxes on alcohol and the smoking ban have all played their part.

It has also had to contend with changing social trends: per capita consumption of alcohol has declined by 18pc since 2004, according to a recent report by think tank The Institute of Economic Affairs (IEA).

Despite the industry’s woes, many landlords are finding innovative ways of pulling in the punters.

Peter Borg-Neal, the founder of Oakman Inns, which operates 10 pubs in market towns across Hertfordshire, Buckingham and Oxfordshire, says pubs that are thriving have managed to expand their offerings to appeal to as many people as possible.

“We’re open all day, serving coffee, food and offering free wifi. It means we are used by all sorts of people in the town. In the mornings we might have an NCT [National Childbirth Trust] group here, business people for lunch, and later people come in for a drink after work.”

Now owning 10 pubs, with three more due to open this year, Mr Borg-Neal says he aims to appeal to everyone within walking distance or a 20-minute drive of an Oakman.

Although I no longer drink alcohol I am not anti-pubs, in fact my father-in-law is a retired publican who still owns a freehouse.  I like that the Oakman Inns are catering to all markets by widening their offering.  I will happily go sit and socialise in a pub, even if no food is on offer, providing there is a good range of alcohol free options for me to imbibe 🙂

How bout you?

Sober Friday Jukebox

Another Friday rolls around and another coin spins this one into place in the sober jukebox:

Really showing my age now – but this was one of the first albums I bought.   1983 – I’d have been 15.

Friday sober jukebox
Friday sober jukebox

Yep that was it ……. It’s amazing how apt some of these songs feel particularly the lyrics

Where does the end of me
Become the start of you
When it’s all too late
It’s all too late

You can change

You can change and your tears need not be from fear!!

I also have to share this that cropped up in the comments of my 600 day post.  Thank you to all of you for your well wishes 🙂

Still struggling with your emotions as part of this whole not drinking thing?  Then this film looks right up our street!  Happy Friday people and remember ‘we don’t drink on Fridays’ – well not booze anyway 😉