As you know earlier this year I teamed up with Club Soda to launch and run a How to Quit Workshop here in the UK. It is based on my Udemy online course material and this week-end we ran our fourth one of the year 🙂
One of our attendees at the first one in May (who wrote the lovely review entitled ‘Wonderful Stop Drinking workshop’ to the right hand side of this piece on the website) came back and joined us again for the September workshop sharing with the attendees their story. She has very kindly given me permission to share her success and what she said.
I am here today to share my success story after doing this workshop earlier in the year.
Firstly a bit about my drinking history.I have always been a heavy drinker. I never allowed myself to drink during the week but I would cram it in at the weekend. It felt like ground hog day on Monday morning waking up hungover ,depressed and tearful. I would often take my daughter to school then go back to bed as there was no one around to witness it.Whereas over the weekend I had to put on a brave face and carry on even though I felt awful – it was exhausting .
Another problem that went with the hangovers was binge eating . I would wake up and find wrappers of stuff I had forgotten I had eaten and because I was hungover I would binge on crap all day.
I knew I wasn’t a normal drinker as I was always the first to finish my drink,trying to slow down in case people noticed or pouring an extra glass in secret. Towards the end of my drinking I would share a bottle of wine with my husband but have an open bottle of wine in the garage to have an extra couple of glasses as half a bottle wasn’t enough.On Sunday I would persuade my husband to eat out so I could have more wine because if we stayed in he would felt it unnecessary to drink wine if we had been drinking the night before. I would come home Sunday afternoon have an extra couple of glasses in secret then collapse on the sofa missing out on valuable family time.Funny thing is my husband doesn’t think I have a drinking problem he just thinks I am a bit greedy with wine.My heavy drinking friends also tell me there’s nothing wrong with my drinking. My closest friend said she preferred me when I was a drinker as I am quieter now and go home earlier when they start to sound pissed. It doesn’t matter if I am told I am a normal drinker as they are not the ones in bed on Monday crying.
I am not sure if I am an alcoholic but even if I am the label doesn’t matter. Also when or how much you drink doesn’t matter – if it feels like a problem then it is a problem.
My aunt has one glass of wine a day but says she could never have a day without . To me one glass is nothing but she is still alcohol dependent so maybe she could be classed as an alcoholic – who cares ?
In the past I have tried to moderate my drinking by only allowing myself a couple of drinks or just drinking beer etc.but nothing worked. I found the amount of head space it took up very draining.I have read books and even done Allen Carr’s Stop Drinking Workshop twice ( £299 a day now) but still went back to drinking. At the end of his workshop they do a bit of hypnotherapy telling us we are now non drinkers. When I asked about follow up support he said I won’t need it as I was now a non drinker and that was that!
However after doing Louise’s workshop I feel different this time as if something has clicked into place – the final piece of jig-saw I needed.
I found it a good balance of medical information and psychological support . I had a follow up chat and I emailed her daily on my first boozy holiday with friends. I also think becoming a Club Soda member has been fantastic,I regularly read blogs and look at their Facebook page. I have a Club Soda Buddy who I email regularly. I don’t feel abnormal anymore.
I feel so much happier and have more energy at weekends to live a full life with my family. I have started a bit of jogging ( fast walking ! ) and lost some weight which is a bonus.I still have times where I want a drink but it really helps to play the tape forward and remember how I will feel the next day. I have to be aware of my triggers- the worst for me are pre-dinner drinks .
My 24 year old daughter spoke to me a few weeks ago and said how proud she is of me. I feel guilty as I have encouraged her to drink with me in the past so I won’t look so bad. What a terrible example. She is having September off drinking and said she is feeling fantastic and that I was her inspiration. I felt emotional and proud of how well I am doing.
I don’t feel a victim to my old drinking and want to move forward. I thought about going to AA but feel they are stuck in the problem depending on meetings but you have to do whatever works for you.
Thank you Louise and Laura you are life savers – literally .
It seems only appropriate to share this today as it is also the one year anniversary of the launch of my Udemy online course
which has now had over 450 people sign up. I am so pleased with its success to date and have all of you to thank for that 🙂 Thank you!