So this image is taken from the book Money Love by Meadow Devor who was interviewed by Tommy Rosen as part of his Recovery 2.0 online conference in September. She was talking to him about financial sobriety and some of the things she said had my mouth fall open in recognition. So I thought I would share a few key points from what she shared about abundance, compassionately observing and noting our thinking and moving on from the ‘please like me discount’.
Although her book focuses on money so much of what she said is applicable to so many other areas of life too, including booze. Interestingly Meadow is also in recovery from alcohol. So without giving away too much – these were my key take-away points from her wisdom.
When you engage in a behaviour whether it is spending, eating, drinking, internet surfing, etc ask yourself:
- What are you feeling?
- What are you trying to achieve/avoid? Why are you doing this?
- Can you afford it? In terms of money, time or emotions
And to weigh up the value vs the cost (again talking about financial, time or emotional).
She also talks a great deal about how we act from either scarcity or abundance as represented by the scale illustrated at the top of the post. I definitely grew up with a scarcity mentality and mindset and have been doing some serious work around reframing how I view the world in a more abundant way. Part of that work was leaving behind my own ‘please like me discount’ which, because of my own issues with co-dependency, was a big thing that I knew I did but had never before heard it put so succinctly into words! I have a post it note above my desk that reminds me:
You do enough
You have enough
You are enough
You can listen to her being interviewed by Laura McKowen & Holly Whitaker on the Home podcast here:
If you are struggling with feelings of worry, frustration or lack how about trying this abundance meditation to see if you can start to shift your way of thinking too? I can promise you if you begin to practise gratitude, and try to engage with the world from a place of empowerment and abundance soon the ‘fake it till you make it’ approach will shift becoming not just a desired hope but your reality. Why not give it a try?
PS As if our cup wasn’t overflowing enough with abundance today this news broke this afternoon too! Go Scotland!! 🙂
Plans to set a minimum price for alcohol in Scotland have today (21 October 2016) been backed by the Scottish courts.
“We are satisfied that the Scottish courts have concluded that MUP is legal, as we have argued for many years, and we now call for it to be implemented without delay.” (Herald Scotland)