When I used to drink the drinking threw in a free gift of a helping of guilt and shame on the side – how kind! Guilt is the emotion that we feel when we have behaved in a way that we perceive to be hurtful to others or as a moral lapse. Guilt serves a … Continue reading Drinking guilt and its big brother shame
This is the drinks coaster that sits on my desk beside my laptop where I write this blog. I bought it when I was District Nursing on our return from France so probably in 2009/2010. Edward Monkton’s quirky works always make me chuckle and cider was one of my drinks of choice so that is … Continue reading 3 years and what next?
It’s been a while since I featured any Brene Brown and her work is so integral to the drinking and recovery journey that I thought it was long over due so you’re getting a double dose today and tomorrow! If you haven’t read my post on drinking guilt and its big brother shame you can … Continue reading Brené Brown: 3 Things You Can Do to Stop a Shame Spiral
So I’ve been reading John Bradshaw’s Healing The Shame That Binds You and oh my goodness when I read the section on Shame as The Core and Fuel of Addiction I almost fell off my chair! It’s called The Squirrel Cage and is so reminiscent of this post I wrote it is spooky ….. I’m … Continue reading Friday Sober Inspiration: Shame and The Squirrel Cage
So this was another new word to me that I heard recently – emotophobia meaning to be emotophobic. Not to be confused with emetophobic, the fear of being sick! What is emotophobia? It is the fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval. I am a recovering emotophobic because I … Continue reading Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic
Firstly Happy New Year to you from me! 🙂 What does one write about on the first day of a new year that holds so much promise and optimism? I think the best place to start are with my words for 2017 which are freedom/liberation. I think they stem from the discoveries I made as … Continue reading 2017: Freedom & Liberation
Back in June I blogged about the sad death of Sally Brampton and at the time added her book to my reading wish list. ‘Shoot the damn dog‘ finally arrived from the library and oh my goodness what a beautiful book. It should be mandatory reading for each and every one of us depressed, drinker … Continue reading Shoot the Damn Dog
So Rusty Shackle is the name of a folk roots and roll or Welsh hip folk (as they call themselves) band who we heard about a few years ago when we went to the Just So Festival. We were less than a year into sobriety and we were trying a family festival out to see … Continue reading Friday Sober Jukebox – Rusty Shackle
So just over a week after I hit 3 years sober I share with you this little nugget of wisdom from Glennon Doyle Melton founder of Momastery who I saw interviewed by Marie Forleo recently. Instead of sharing a tune tonight I’m going to link their interview for you to enjoy and boy it was … Continue reading Friday Sober Inspiration: Love Warrior On!
So continuing on from yesterday’s post talking about Brene Brown‘s awesome book Daring Greatly we now turn to how we take care of ourselves when we realise we are numbing whether with booze or any other substance or behaviour. Brene cites Jennifer Louden who has named our numbing devices ‘shadow comforts’. In her book, The … Continue reading Shadow comforts and feeding our spirits