Drinking guilt and its big brother shame

When I used to drink the drinking threw in a free gift of a helping of guilt and shame on the side – how kind!  Guilt is the emotion that we feel when we have behaved in a way that we perceive to be hurtful to others or as a moral lapse.  Guilt serves a … Continue reading Drinking guilt and its big brother shame

Brené Brown: 3 Things You Can Do to Stop a Shame Spiral

It’s been a while since I featured any Brene Brown and her work is so integral to the drinking and recovery journey that I thought it was long over due so you’re getting a double dose today and tomorrow! If you haven’t read my post on drinking guilt and its big brother shame you can … Continue reading Brené Brown: 3 Things You Can Do to Stop a Shame Spiral

Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic

So this was another new word to me that I heard recently – emotophobia meaning to be emotophobic.  Not to be confused with emetophobic, the fear of being sick! What is emotophobia?  It is the fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval. I am a recovering emotophobic because I … Continue reading Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic

Shoot the Damn Dog

Back in June I blogged about the sad death of Sally Brampton and at the time added her book to my reading wish list.  ‘Shoot the damn dog‘ finally arrived from the library and oh my goodness what a beautiful book.  It should be mandatory reading for each and every one of us depressed, drinker … Continue reading Shoot the Damn Dog

Shadow comforts and feeding our spirits

So continuing on from yesterday’s post talking about Brene Brown‘s awesome book Daring Greatly we now turn to how we take care of ourselves when we realise we are numbing whether with booze or any other substance or behaviour. Brene cites Jennifer Louden who has named our numbing devices ‘shadow comforts’.  In her book, The … Continue reading Shadow comforts and feeding our spirits