Friday Sober Inspiration: Shame and The Squirrel Cage

So I’ve been reading John Bradshaw’s Healing The Shame That Binds You and oh my goodness when I read the section on Shame as The Core and Fuel of Addiction I almost fell off my chair!  It’s called The Squirrel Cage and is so reminiscent of this post I wrote it is spooky ….. I’m … Continue reading Friday Sober Inspiration: Shame and The Squirrel Cage

Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic

So this was another new word to me that I heard recently – emotophobia meaning to be emotophobic.  Not to be confused with emetophobic, the fear of being sick! What is emotophobia?  It is the fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval. I am a recovering emotophobic because I … Continue reading Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic

Shadow comforts and feeding our spirits

So continuing on from yesterday’s post talking about Brene Brown‘s awesome book Daring Greatly we now turn to how we take care of ourselves when we realise we are numbing whether with booze or any other substance or behaviour. Brene cites Jennifer Louden who has named our numbing devices ‘shadow comforts’.  In her book, The … Continue reading Shadow comforts and feeding our spirits