Friday Sober Jukebox: I’m Free

So here I am once again reeling from insight after insight triggered happily by reading another Pete Walker book!  Finding that I’m free – or continuing to work myself free from old constraining ways of thinking around my shame from drinking and other perceived weaknesses which is often represented by the voice of our inner … Continue reading Friday Sober Jukebox: I’m Free

Sober inspiration: Emotional Hunger and Addiction

So I’ve been reading Pete Walker’s second book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.  This is not the first time I’ve talked about Pete’s writing which has been revolutionary for me in deepening my understanding of the emotional recovery aspects of addiction and you can read them all here.  In this book he digs even … Continue reading Sober inspiration: Emotional Hunger and Addiction

Sober Friday Jukebox: STAIR-way to heaven

So it feels like all the reading I’ve done of late has been heading to this point.  I recently received an email from Mind the Brain about Complex PTSD, STAIR and social ecology that you can read here. STAIR is the acronym for Skills Training in Affective and Interpersonal Regulation.  It’s a training programme that … Continue reading Sober Friday Jukebox: STAIR-way to heaven

Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic

So this was another new word to me that I heard recently – emotophobia meaning to be emotophobic.  Not to be confused with emetophobic, the fear of being sick! What is emotophobia?  It is the fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval. I am a recovering emotophobic because I … Continue reading Hi My name is Lou, and I’m a recovering emotophobic

Repetition Compulsion (Friday Sober Jukebox: I Heard)

So this is something I’ve been reading about in Pete Walker’s Tao of Fully Feeling.  The best description I read was from a blog by Graffiti Girl 2013 and she encapsulates beautifully what repetition compulsion is: “Repetition compulsion is the repetition of a traumatic event and an attempt at mastery of one’s feelings and experience, … Continue reading Repetition Compulsion (Friday Sober Jukebox: I Heard)

Friday Sober Inspiration: The Four Essential Processes of Grieving

So I’ve spoken about grief and grieving before in this post and this was a great podcast about the subject too. As I’ve continued to read Pete Walker The Tao of Fully Feeling he has described his four essential processes of grieving .  So I’m going to add to my knowledge from Kubler-Ross and include … Continue reading Friday Sober Inspiration: The Four Essential Processes of Grieving

Sober Inspiration: The four key dynamics of the emotional nature

So continuing on from last week’s post about the Tao of Fully Feeling I’m going to continue inspiring you with Pete Walker’s insights and knowledge on emotions.  He talks about the four key dynamics of the emotional nature which was all completely new to me but yet made perfect sense! These are: wholism, polarity, ambivalence, … Continue reading Sober Inspiration: The four key dynamics of the emotional nature

Sober Inspiration: The Tao of Fully Feeling

So I’m reading a new book that I heard talked about recently by Pete Walker called The Tao of Fully Feeling.  I’m only a few pages in but text is already jumping out at me and screaming to be shared! Here’s the opening: Feelings and emotions are energetic states that do not magically dissipate when … Continue reading Sober Inspiration: The Tao of Fully Feeling

Drinking guilt and its big brother shame

When I used to drink the drinking threw in a free gift of a helping of guilt and shame on the side – how kind!  Guilt is the emotion that we feel when we have behaved in a way that we perceive to be hurtful to others or as a moral lapse.  Guilt serves a … Continue reading Drinking guilt and its big brother shame