So on the cycle of change I had now moved from pre-contemplative to contemplative to preparation. This stage is crucial.
For 10 years of my working life, l left the NHS and used my nursing skills and knowledge in the corporate world of medical sales and marketing and one of the best things I learned is the 7Ps rule; Proper Planning and Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
OK it could be argued that extensive preparation was just a way of procastinating and putting off the eventual day of stopping. But I felt that this was really important and as I am now on day 127 I would be justified in saying it worked 😉 Just be mindful of wolfie using preparation as a ruse to keep you drinking!
I always start with information and am a bit of a luddite in that the first thing I reach for is a book. I read a mixture of resource books, autobiographical and fiction. So these are the books that I have read:
Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp
The Sober Revolution by Sarah Turner and Lucy Rocca
Ice and a Slice by Della Galton
Last Orders – A Drinkers Guide to Sobriety by Andy McIntyre
Why You Drink and How to Stop by Veronica Valli
Restore Your Life: A Living Plan for Sober People by Anne Geller
Dry: A Memoir by Augusten Burroughs
Journey Through Thinking about Drinking Towards a Safer Relationship with Alcohol by Stuart Linke
The final book I read before stopping as it required me to continue drinking until I finished reading it was:
Easy Way to Control Alcohol by Allen Carr
Most of these books I read after stopping, not before, as it helped me in the early days to read about other people’s experiences.
The book I’m about to start reading is Between Drinks: Escape the Routine, Take Control and Join the Clear Thinkers by David Downie.
This list is by no means exhaustive as there are many more books! What books have you read that I haven’t that you would recommend to someone reading this? 🙂
Edited to add: 31/05/2015
These are other books I’ve read since I originally wrote this post almost 16 months ago:
Beyond Addiction by Foote, Wilkens and Kosanke
Almost Alcoholic by Doyle and Nowinski (I’ve written several blog posts about this book which you can read here and here)
Drink – The Deadly Relationship between Women and Alcohol by Ann Dowsett Johnson THIS IS AN EXCEPTIONAL BOOK!
Mrs D is Going Without by Lotta Dann
Sober is the New Black by Rachel Black
Staying Sober – How to Control The Demon Drink by Binki Laidler
The Good House by Ann Leary (I found this one really triggery even though I read it when I was well over a year after stopping so proceed with caution)
The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
As I read more I’ll continue to add them 🙂
Edited to add: More books read as of 25/08/17
Janet Woititz – Adult Children of Alcoholics
Meadow Devor – Money Love
Sally Brampton – Shoot the Damn Dog
Dr Shefali Tsabary – The Conscious Parent
Pete Walker – The Tao of Fully Feeling & Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
Susan Anderson – Taming Your Outer Child
Cheryl Strayed – Tiny Beautiful Things
Lotta Dann – Mrs D is Going Within
Michael Singer – The Untethered Soul & The Surrender Experiment
John Bradshaw – Healing The Shame That Binds You
Claudia Black – Changing Course
Mark Manson – The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck
Svend Brinkmann – Stand Firm: Resisting the Self-Improvement Craze
Melody Beattie – Making Miracles in 40 Days & Codependent No More
Mary Karr – Lit