Last week I had the pleasure of meeting 3 sober friends for a chat over lunch and cups of tea while all around were busy celebrating Paddy’s Day with booze. Although we ‘knew’ each other this was the first time that we had met and for me it was both anxiety-provoking and like coming home all at the same time. I had a fantastic time, 3 1/2 hours had never gone so fast and I have never before not wanted to leave the table in case I missed something!
What I learned through our conversations was that we were all quite different and yet our stories were reassuringly familiar when it came to drinking and what had bought us all together and to the point of stopping. I loved our differences in both who we were and how we were treading our own paths. Each journey was as unique as our individual finger-print. There was no ‘one size fits all’ panacea.
Some of us started blogging when we had stopped drinking and others had not
Some of us were drinking alcohol free beers and wines and others were not
Some of us were attending AA and others were not
And that I found deeply comforting as my perfectionist inner critic loves nothing more than finding out that there is a supposed ‘right’ way to do something and that I haven’t done it. Wolfie would have been straight in my ear with his ‘oh well, you’ve not done it correctly so you may as well drink again’ tactics.
See the only thing that matters is that you don’t drink. How you manage that is entirely up to you and you just need to do whatever works for you. Progress not perfection 🙂