I stumbled across your blog, from mumsnet I think, about a month ago, and the first post that I read was this: https://ahangoverfreelife.com/2014/01/15/the-moderating-game-part-two/.
I wasn’t thinking about giving up alcohol and was utterly unaware of the phenomenon of “sober blogs” (I don’t normally spend much time online). I was worried about my drinking, have been for years between periods of sticking my head in the sand, so I guess just the title of your blog appealed to me.
As I read your list of how you used to moderate, I felt connection, amused recognition: yes, I’ve tried that, tried that, ooh, haven’t tried that, looks like a good idea. Because I hadn’t seen your blog before I didn’t get the point until the last line – and it’s impact was huge.
I genuinely never thought I could stop – I would always try to moderate because the alternative seemed too horrific for me to even contemplate, but I stopped three days ago and I have no intention of drinking again. I don’t know how things will turn out, I have so many fears and uncertainties, but something has changed inside me over the last month. I see myself and the problem booze differently now and I can’t go back to how it was. Part of that change is down to your blog, to that post – I found it at just the right moment, a moment of true serendipity.
So I wanted to say thank you – thank you.
PS – have signed up for Belle’s 100 day challenge and already have a new addiction – sober blogs!
Thank you for the thank you 🙂 So glad you found the blog helpful and that you have joined Belle’s 100 day challenge. She was a god-send in the early days for me. Please feel free to email me too if you would find that beneficial. I’m at the almost 5 month mark and like you never thought I would be able to stop but I have. It is possible and if my experience is anything to go by you will not recognise yourself or your life in a few months time. Keep me posted as to how you’re doing and welcome to the sober blogging community. They are wonderful and have been pivotal in me staying off the sauce.
Thank you again for emailing me – you have made my day as it makes my blogging feel of value 🙂
(Edited to add: MTM has started her own blog so you could always go visit and say hello :))
I love what sobriety has given me both internally and externally and I owe a huge thank you to the sober blogging community too, so thank you xx